Setiap perempuan yang sudah janda, orang menganggap kita itu tidak baik, kadang-kadang. Tapi untuk diri saya, saya anggap diri saya baik.
Being a woman
is a matter of
honour and respect.
长大了，自己对“女人”的概念大概有些变化吧. 自己不在把自己困劲在女人“应该“的范围, 也比较明白自己对自己的概念不是别人可以告诉你的一件东西，而是自己慢慢的反复思考，慢慢的琢磨明白的.
There’s kind of two ways to be seen
and listened to and heard as a woman and that’s
either being beautiful or being angry
I know that there is no
way anyone can undermine my
self-worth except for myself.
Saya ingin maju - saya tak mahu anak-anak saya seperti yang saya menjalani. Saya ingin lebih bagus, lebih bagus, lebih dari apa yang saya punya, saya ingin yang lebih tinggi semuanya.
Task One
Find a piece of paper and a pen.
Go to a mirror in your house.
Look at yourself.
After a minute, write down 3 aspects of yourself and your identity that you are proud of.
Say those things out loud to yourself.
Put the paper next to your toothbrush for tomorrow morning.
I think we have a really warped perception of women, we think we are really liberal and progressive but we actually have really backward views.
Being a woman gives me an identity. I’ve always felt that as a
woman you are part of a special club, with unique skills and
talents that are essential and important.
所以 我 告诉 自己 不是 因为 身为 女性 而 不能 南沟 讨论 自慰 不是 因为 身为 女性 就 应该 要不断 忍受 他人 的 情绪 不是 因为 身为 女性 而 失去 了 什么 权利. 我 要 面对 的 应该 是 以自己 身为 人 的 角度 出发 而 不是 被 女性 角色 束缚 后 的 自己
I think that I’m going to change throughout my life, and my womanhood is going to mean different things to me. At one point I might be a mother and that’s what it means, or at some point I might be an employee of some kind and that’s what my sense of womanhood will mean to me. It’s going to change and that’s beautiful, and I’ll embrace it.
I often disregarded my femininity when I was younger.
I kind of thought that it was almost useless - which is a terrible thing to feel. I feel like a lot of women,
especially when they were younger, felt that way in some sense. But I think overtime that I’ve gotten to know more and be more accepting of my body and the fact that I am a woman.
My sense of self comes from the solidarity of being surrounded by women.
I think that I have personally come from a stand point that we are people and that in an ideal world that would be as simply said as done. But we are not in an ideal world. But I think in my set frame of mind I identify more as a person than a woman.
Task Two
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Saya bekerja disini, saya ingin membiayai anak saya. Tapi, lama-lama suami saya pun juga beda juga, pikirannya hampir sama, saya disangka, saya sudah tidak mengurusi anak-anak. Itu yang paling aku tak suka - perempuan selalu dihina pertama.
When I talk to my friends in Malaysia and Singapore, I can see how narratives have changed, I can see that people are a little bit more accepting, and a little bit more willing to engage in discussions about feminism.
I have a great sense of self. I feel like I know myself better than ever because of all the doubts and I feel really confident in myself.
I’ve been brought up in a Western society so I think I have had the best of both worlds in the sense that I’ve had my Pakistani culture and English culture so it’s a mix of two. And that’s shaped who I am as a woman.
Wa ji zun kia ga gor zup gor ni, wa ji zun gor zup gor hei liao. Suo yi, da hang geng gei liao e ki gang kor e lit zi, suo yi ji zun wa zoh mi kia e ga kin sang. Wa e fu chu bi lang ga ho e geng yam, suo yi ji zun simi mi kia lai zoh ho wa si jin jia gan tang.Suo yi ji zun zoh lang a bei bu, wa e ga tic gong wa ho wa e kia li e ga ho a lit zi gei. An zua wa tak han gei e sai.
Finding a way to communicate to show people that everyone is the same and everyone is equal and everyone is as valuable as everyone else is.
मेरा टये माना है की जिस संस्कृति में देवियों की पूजा बराबर देवता के साथ होती है उस संस्कृति मीन वह दिन ज़रूर आएगा जहां सब लड़कियों को बिना माँगे अपना हक़ मिलेंगी
It’s also about being a person, who wants to do everything and feel they could try anything. So why do I feel this? Well that’s what my father told me, as a father of three daughters, that I could do.
If anything it would
cause me to feel determined
and motivated, to sort of,
have more of a sense of self in
being a woman and really take pride in that role that I have.
Setiap perempuan memang harus mempunyai identiti.
And cultures view of women who are successful is that they are bossy, that
they’ve pushed their way through, that they don’t take any prisoners…
Oh they’re a bitch – that’s society’s view of a powerful woman